Black Love Is A Revolutionary Act - Excerpts
Excerpt # 1
CHAPTER ONE
THE END OF A MARRIAGE
The “Perfect Couple”
They met in college through mutual friends. The moment he saw her, he knew she would be his wife. After twenty years of marriage and three children, they still laugh at each other’s jokes and cuddle like teenagers in darkened movie theaters.
They laugh, too, whenever their friends and family call them “the perfect couple,” because no marriage was perfect. Secretly, they are proud to wear the label because their union had survived the marital storms that sank much weaker vessels. As a daily reminder, an engraved plaque hangs on the wall above their bed: “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”
The Unthinkable Happens
On a cold, moonlit night in their quiet suburban neighborhood, a shadowy figure slips in through the partially open kitchen window. The peacefully sleeping couple is startled awake by a flashlight shining in their faces.
The armed intruder -- a powerfully built man in a white Halloween mask -- orders the couple to strip naked then pushes the wife to the floor, and rapes her at gunpoint. The husband watches helplessly, afraid they will both be killed if he resists.
The rapist leaves in the early dawn hours, taking their wallets, wedding rings, and peace of mind with him. The ordeal lasts less than an hour, but it feels like a lifetime to the terrified, traumatized couple.
The Husband
The husband is emotionally devastated because he could not protect his wife from the armed rapist. He tries to comfort her, but eventually, the weight of the ordeal consumes him. He begins to resent his wife for witnessing his lack of courage (manhood), and starts to project his feelings of rage and inadequacy onto her.
He wonders if his wife did something to provoke the attack. Did the rapist look familiar, he asks, then reminds her that she had been unfaithful (once) during their marriage. Why was their house -- out of all the houses in the neighborhood – singled out? Didn’t he warn her constantly to lock the windows before going to bed? His questions and barely disguised accusations initiate the first of many bitter arguments between them.
The husband decides there was only one reason he wasn’t able to protect his wife: she didn’t deserve to be protected. His “damaged” wife becomes the major obstacle to reclaiming his manhood and self-respect.
Lately, he finds himself flirting with strange women and taking their phone numbers. Sometimes, he calls them from his office; other times from the privacy of his car. He has never once cheated on his wife, but he has also never felt like less than a man.
The husband withdraws sexually because he is sure his wife despises him. The truth is, he cannot sustain an erection because he can’t get the image of the man raping his wife out of his head.
The Wife
When the intruder rips off her nightgown, the wife cries out to her husband, even though she knows he can’t save her without risking both their lives. She tearfully submits, praying they will survive the night.
After the ordeal ends, the wife is completely distraught. She knows what happened was not her husband’s fault, but he is the man; she is not. Had he made the smallest attempt to rescue her, she would have more respect for him. When he implies that the rape was her fault -- her contempt and resentment mushrooms.
She is certain he sees her as “damaged goods” because he never touches her anymore. The truth is, she doesn’t want to be touched because she cannot get the image of her naked and frightened husband out of her head. He’s a coward, she decides bitterly, and wonders why she never noticed it before. Thus, the deadly process of unraveling what was once a loving, successful marriage begins.
The End Of A Loving Marriage
The rapist is never caught or punished, and the couple never seeks counseling because they are too ashamed to admit they need it. The husband and wife are so busy blaming each other they have lost sight of who is really responsible. Less than a year after the rape, their marriage has deteriorated to the point where a divorce is inevitable.
Try to Imagine…
Your son, daughter, mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, wife, or husband being beaten, tortured, stripped naked, fondled, raped, or murdered right in front of your eyes -- and there was nothing you could do to stop it from happening.
And if you can’t imagine that, imagine this:
YOU are standing naked on a slave auction block, and there are dozens of slave traders randomly examining every part and every orifice (opening) of your precious body...and there was nothing you could do to stop it from happening to YOU.
To understand the GENDER WARS between the black male and female, we must start where it all began:
At the beginning...
Excerpt # 2
CHAPTER TWO
WHAT ARE BLACK GENDER WARS?
The best place to start is by defining “Gender Wars.”
Q: What are “Gender Wars?”
A: Gender Wars are the by-product of a sexist culture, where the male is pitted against the female, and the female is pitted against the male, usually by more powerful people behind the scenes.
Q: Why are “Black Gender Wars” a bigger problem than crime, drugs, poverty, or inferior schools?
A: Because crime, drugs, poverty, and inferior schools are the SYMPTOMS -- NOT the CAUSE of our relationship problems. The real problem is the WAR being waged against the black community by the white supremacy system.
The black male and black female are like two feuding parents trapped in a burning house that was set on FIRE by a gang of serial arsonists. While their children are dying from burns and smoke inhalation, the mother and father are arguing and blaming each other for a fire they did not create INSTEAD of working TOGETHER to put the fire out. Our mutual enemy (the white supremacy system) is COMPLETELY RESPONSIBLE for the fire. However, once the FIRE is raging, OUR MAIN PRIORITY should be to put the fire out -- or GET OUT of that burning house (the white supremacy system).
Q: How do powerful people profit from “Gender Wars?”
A: Once the male and female are DIVIDED; they will soon be CONQUERED. The Gender Wars between males and females create demoralized adults, children, families, and communities. This “manufactured” conflict allows the powerful elite to take advantage AND take control of a divided population.
Q: How are Gender Wars “manufactured?”
A: By creating a economic, educational, and political system that ARTIFICIALLY makes one sex (typically male) superior to the other. A sexist society views the exploitation and degradation of females as normal and desirable. Like most victims of injustice, abused females eventually rebel against male oppression, creating a disastrous effect on the children, the family, and the society.
Q: Aren’t Gender Wars normal for every culture?
A: No, Gender Wars occur ONLY when sexism is present. There have been African (and other non-white) cultures where gender conflicts are nonexistent because females have different but equally important roles BUT there has NEVER been a European culture that was free of sexism. Bottom line, any society that promotes gender wars is setting the stage for its own destruction.
Q: How are Black Gender Wars and White Gender Wars different?
A: White males and females will put their Gender Wars on hold to unite against their mutual (perceived) enemies OR to benefit their group (race) under the banner of white supremacy. The exact opposite is true for black males and females, who will blindly wage war against each other even while outside enemies are devastating their children, families, and communities.
Q: How did Black Gender Wars begin?
A: Black Gender Wars began during slavery when slave-owners pitted the male slave against the female; parent against child; house slave against field slave; and light-skinned slaves against dark-skinned slaves.
After our original AFRICAN CULTURE was destroyed during slavery, and blacks were forced to integrate into the white culture, we began to imitate the dysfunctional relationship between the white male and white female. To this day, the materialistic, sexist, and antagonistic white male/female relationship has become the STANDARD for most black relationships.
However, it is futile and self-defeating for black males to imitate white male sexism because black males LACK THE POWER to effectively practice it. In reality, black male sexism actually WEAKENS the black male’s ability to overcome his racist oppression because it alienates the black female at a critical time when her FULL COOPERATION is desperately needed.
In other words, the black male NEEDS the SUPPORT and RESPECT of black females collectively to transform himself from slave negro to SELF-RESPECTING BLACK MAN.
Q: Where are Black Gender Wars most likely to occur?
A: Anywhere and everywhere black men and women interact: at home, school, work, sex, play; church; even between two strangers passing in the street.
Q: How many types of Black Gender Wars are there?
A: Three: (1) male VS female; (2) male VS male; and (3) female VS female.
Examples Of Black Male VS Black Female Gender Wars:
- Black fathers abandoning the black mothers of their children
- Black mothers using their children to hurt or financially exploit the father(s)
- Black males uplifting white females above black females
- Black females uplifting white males above black males
- The rising black divorce rate
- The falling black marriage rate
- The increase of interracial relationships for black males and females
- Domestic abuse and rape of black females and males
- BLACK NEIGHBORHOODS THAT RESEMBLE WAR ZONES
Examples Of Black Male VS Black Male Gender Wars:
- Black fathers abusing, abandoning, or competing with their sons
- Black males who encourage destructive ways in younger males
- Black males who refuse to support or encourage other black males
- Black men who betray other black men for ego, jealousy, or profit
- Black men who pursue the wives of other black men and break up families
- Black neighborhoods that resemble war zones
- BLACK MEN KILLING OTHER BLACK MEN
Examples Of Black Female VS Black Female Gender Wars:
- Black mothers abusing, abandoning, or competing with their daughters for male attention
- Black females who encourage destructive behavior in other black females
- Black females who condone “sexism” against other black females
- Black females who demonize younger black females instead of mentoring them
- Black females who attack or degrade other black females out of jealousy
- Black females who refuse to speak to or be cordial to other black females
- Black females who refer to other black females as ‘bitches’ and ‘hos’
- Black females who refuse to support or encourage other black females
- BLACK FEMALES WHO PURSUE THE HUSBANDS OF OTHER BLACK FEMALES AND BREAK UP BLACK FAMILIES
Black Gender Wars Are Anti-Family AND Anti-Survival
The FAMILY is the FOUNDATION of every society on earth, and MARRIAGE is the legal, moral, and spiritual COMMITMENT a man and woman make to raise their children within the protection of a stable, committed home. Unfortunately, some blacks feel a lifetime commitment is too old-fashioned, too confining, and totally unnecessary for bringing children into the world.
This belief is illogical for three reasons:
If a black male and female cannot commit to staying together, it is unlikely they can or will commit to raising mentally sane black children. The end result is uncommitted, disconnected baby mommas and daddies, broken children, broken families, and a broken nation.
The traditional MARRIAGE model adopted by the MOST SUCCESSFUL ETHNIC GROUPS in America is being rejected by the LEAST SUCCESSFUL ETHNIC GROUP in America (blacks).
It is impossible to build strong business/economic bases without building strong communities. Strong communities require strong families. Strong families require strong men and women who are COMMITTED to raising their children UNDER ONE ROOF. We cannot build strong black families, communities, or strong business bases until we end Black Gender Wars.
We cannot end Black Gender Wars until we understand the 13 Recipes that created them; who benefits from Black Gender Wars; and what WE must do to END them.